A quick one today, I have so much to do, anyway, I have a friend who has a terrible habit of not letting you finish a sentence when you speak to him/her, no giveaways here so I shall call the person Bob, also, Bob will ask advice and then immediately say, 'I don't agree' and ignore everything you have just suggested, so why ask for advice and just completely ignore it, I don't get it.
So, I am having a one sided conversation with Bob, who just talks non stop and when Bob pauses for breath and I try to reply Bob just talks over me and continues with the conversation, talking, talking, talking and talking, if I don't respond I get moaned at for not saying anything, anyway, it came to a head the other night when I, Bob and a couple of other friends were out having a quite drink, one of the group started a conversation about 20 seconds into it Bob started expressing his/her opinion talking over what the other guy was saying, and every time he tried to continue Bob would say, well I think your wrong, you should do this, you should do that, now the other guy never asked for advice or help he was just telling us what had been going on that day, just general chit chat, but Bob as usual just talked over everyone that night, I got so fed up I said 'For fucks sake ket him finish' Bob got real agitated and told me to shut up, now, people who know me well, know that telling me to shut up is a sure way to get yourself a bitch slap at least, however, I resisted the temptation as we are all friends and just kept quiet, and Bob continued to interrupt, over talk and generally be rude when others were talking.
At the end of the evening I pulled Bob up on his rudeness and arrogance as I see it, but Bob saw no wrong in what he was doing, at this point I realised that Bob thinks this is perfectly normal behaviour, so I explained that He/She had up set most of us that night by interjecting and talking over what we were saying, 'Well you shouldn't be talking rubbish' Bob said, WTF?
Anyway the next day I saw Bob again only this time he/she asked for my advice on a particular problem that I have known about for some time, so Bob asks the question, I give my answer, Bob replies 'you don't know what your talking about', so I say 'Why the fuck ask me then'? Bob says 'Because you think you know everything', I have never professed to know everything, however, I do like to have some knowledge about a particular subject if I am meeting someone that I know has a hobby or a profession that they may like to talk about, this just keeps me from asking, 'What' etc.
So, if you are a Bob take some advice from some who "knows it all" think about the way you conduct yourself while in conversation with someone, it's extremely rude to talk over someone, let them finish then say your piece. Don't ask for advice or someones view on something if your just going to completely ignore what they are saying, and accuse them of not giving the answer you want. And finally, as a sort of retaliation to Bob's rudeness, I now ignore everything he/she says to me, I don't give an answer apart from my new favourite response, 'I don't know'.
I now need to go do some work, and send Bob a message every hour with 'I don't know'.
End of moan.
So, I am having a one sided conversation with Bob, who just talks non stop and when Bob pauses for breath and I try to reply Bob just talks over me and continues with the conversation, talking, talking, talking and talking, if I don't respond I get moaned at for not saying anything, anyway, it came to a head the other night when I, Bob and a couple of other friends were out having a quite drink, one of the group started a conversation about 20 seconds into it Bob started expressing his/her opinion talking over what the other guy was saying, and every time he tried to continue Bob would say, well I think your wrong, you should do this, you should do that, now the other guy never asked for advice or help he was just telling us what had been going on that day, just general chit chat, but Bob as usual just talked over everyone that night, I got so fed up I said 'For fucks sake ket him finish' Bob got real agitated and told me to shut up, now, people who know me well, know that telling me to shut up is a sure way to get yourself a bitch slap at least, however, I resisted the temptation as we are all friends and just kept quiet, and Bob continued to interrupt, over talk and generally be rude when others were talking.
At the end of the evening I pulled Bob up on his rudeness and arrogance as I see it, but Bob saw no wrong in what he was doing, at this point I realised that Bob thinks this is perfectly normal behaviour, so I explained that He/She had up set most of us that night by interjecting and talking over what we were saying, 'Well you shouldn't be talking rubbish' Bob said, WTF?
Anyway the next day I saw Bob again only this time he/she asked for my advice on a particular problem that I have known about for some time, so Bob asks the question, I give my answer, Bob replies 'you don't know what your talking about', so I say 'Why the fuck ask me then'? Bob says 'Because you think you know everything', I have never professed to know everything, however, I do like to have some knowledge about a particular subject if I am meeting someone that I know has a hobby or a profession that they may like to talk about, this just keeps me from asking, 'What' etc.
So, if you are a Bob take some advice from some who "knows it all" think about the way you conduct yourself while in conversation with someone, it's extremely rude to talk over someone, let them finish then say your piece. Don't ask for advice or someones view on something if your just going to completely ignore what they are saying, and accuse them of not giving the answer you want. And finally, as a sort of retaliation to Bob's rudeness, I now ignore everything he/she says to me, I don't give an answer apart from my new favourite response, 'I don't know'.
I now need to go do some work, and send Bob a message every hour with 'I don't know'.
End of moan.
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